When we tell someone who has endured a trauma to "not think about it," we are actually (and likely unintentionally) dissuading them from healing. By not processing abuse, victims not only are at a higher risk for revictimization, but they can also become extremely ill — mentally, emotionally, and physically.
I’d ask myself, “What is wrong with you?" And I wished I could say, "Nothing is wrong." But I knew better.